I recently attended a stunning dance recital at our local high school. The kids on stage ranged from a little over 2 years old to a venerable 18. At intermission, my wife and I chatted with the proud parent of one of the lead dancers. We were shocked to learn that three kids at this very school had committed suicide during the past seven months. Although Jane Mills, the director of child welfare and support for the local school district, considers this cluster of suicides an anomaly, it supports the unpleasant fact that self-inflicted death among teens continues to be a major problem. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report that although males are 4–5 times more likely to die from suicide than females (two of the three suicides at the local school were boys), females are more likely to attempt taking their own lives.
The Ohio State University Medical Center has posted some excellent material on its website dealing with symptoms, treatment suggestions, and general information concerning this important matter. Given that an estimated 12–25 percent of older children and adolescents harbor thoughts about suicide (suicidal ideation) at some point, it is vital that parents of children in this age range become fully informed. Resources such as the USA National Suicide Hotline (800) 784-2433 and (800) 273-8255 and the Yellow Ribbon International Suicide Prevention Program (303) 429-3530 stand ready to provide immediate support.
A 2004 report published by Lubell, Swahn, Crosby, and Kegler suggested a gradual decline of suicides among the young since 1992, but then the trend suddenly reversed. According to the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, the suicide rate between ages 1 and 19 increased by 18.2 percent from 2003 to 2004. In 2004, it was the third leading cause of death among 10-to-24-year-olds.
Suicide is almost always trigger by severe depression. For kids and adults alike, depression manifests as an overwhelming feeling of alienation that can be triggered by rejection, lack of self-esteem, and various forms of extreme stress (social, performance, or at school or work). Teenagers have the additional challenge of coping with the biochemical and hormonal changes that are part of transitioning from childhood to adulthood. Once depression sets in as a syndrome, the youngster loses his or her sense of balance and begins to focus almost exclusively on failure and disappointments, unable to see any positive outcome to a problem. Eventually, there doesn’t seem to be a way out of their difficulty and emotional pain and, unable to communicate their desperate unhappiness, they may turn to suicide as a poignant, last-ditch cry for help.
There is, of course, another take on what these events are all about—if we’re willing to stray from the prescribed path of conventional science and medicine. Russian DNA discoveries cited in the book “Vernetzte Intelligenz” by German authors Grazyna Fosar and Fraz Bludorf offer an interesting perspective on why youngsters, caught between conflicting realities, might well resort to suicide. Their proposal goes like this:
Over time, humanity has evolved from the nonverbal group consciousness we see in animals to experience individuality to a high degree. However, developing individuality was at the cost of losing touch with the subtleties inherent in nonverbal group communication. Now that the capacity for individual consciousness is fairly well-established, humanity is ready to engage in group consciousness at a new, hyperconscious level.
The Russian researchers suggest that in this new form of communication we can access all information via our DNA. Much like the internet, our DNA can feed proper data into the network, retrieve data from the network, and establish contact with other participants in the network. This, among other things, explains extrasensory phenomena like remote healing, telepathy, and remote sensing about the state of another person hundreds if not thousands of miles away. The authors write: “Researchers think that if humans with full individuality would regain group consciousness, they would have a god-like power to create, alter and shape things on Earth!” Indeed, “humanity is collectively moving toward such a group consciousness.”
Certain children these days are growing up with just the capacities the authors describe. Known as Indigos, Star Children, or Crystal Children, these youngsters show a remarkable degree of individuality and an equally remarkable capacity to link with each other in nonverbal, hyperconscious ways. It’s been said that they are hybrids, halfway between where humanity is today and where it is headed. But to develop these capacities, the children have to know who they are and be encouraged to develop their gifts.
The Chinese, and some other countries, are acknowledging the presence of these remarkable children, even setting up special schools. The American educational paradigm, however, has no idea how to deal with them. When they reach school age, they are put into a system that “lumps everyone together and demands adjustment,” the German authors write. Rather than being acknowledged in their individuality, they may be labeled (ADD, or ADHD, for instance) and drugged so they can better conform to the accepted norm. If they are thus trapped between two worlds, without meaningful support from their families, society, and peers, how can these kids be expected to cope?
It’s fair to say that what’s true for Indigo children can be apply more widely as well. Every child comes into this world with potential capacities and gifts that if encouraged and developed, lead to a rich and fruitful adult life that benefits that person and perhaps many others. But without meaningful support and acknowledgment, they may spiral downward, becoming what society labels “at-risk youth.”
One possible solution may lie in wisely applied hypnotherapy. In a conversation with Terry Brussel-Gibbons, a certified clinical hypnotherapist, I began to see that the answer to overwhelm (or any other daunting situation) lies in a change of perspective. Many teachings (including, most recently, the movie The Secret) speak of this, but few provide the step-by-step tools required to actually change our lives by changing our thoughts.
The techniques of self-hypnosis and auto-suggestion allowed virtually anyone to reclaim his or her own power. The techniques speak to the subconscious mind and are quite doable by kids. One of them is making a mental movie. Terry described this simple, yet powerful technique. Design the movie so you are evolving over time from who you are now to who you’d like to be. As you see yourself moving through time toward your ideal life, that ideal, like a light at the end of a tunnel, beckons you on.
With each step of the process, you reclaim more power over your own life, and outside circumstances have less impact on your sense of personal worth. From this broader perspective, what had once been problems now look like worthy challenges to be overcome through your reclaimed creative power of thought.
Terry was quick to point out that anyone seriously considering suicide needs immediate medical attention. For others, the creative thought process empowered by self-hypnosis may well be the breakthrough they’ve been looking for. Terry offers a guided meditation, “Abundance,” which can be very helpful for lifting depression and bringing good things into one’s life. It is available to all readers of this column as a free MP3 download. For today’s children, struggling to integrate their heightened awareness and sensitivity while living in what seems like a callous and insensitive world, this program could provide a way out.
Our children are vital to the future of the planet. I cringe when they are sedated or otherwise disciplined for being extraordinary. As for the new breed of kids, they need to be brought together – as they are in China, Eastern Europe, Mexico, and many other places around the world – and celebrated. If we continue to see a rise in youth suicides, the fault, dear readers, lies not in the stars, but in ourselves, that we are deaf to what these remarkable youngsters are dying to tell us.
Jean-Claude Gerard Koven is a writer and speaker based in Vilcabamba, Ecuador. He was a featured weekly columnist for the UPI (United Press International) Religion and Spirituality Forum and is the author of Going Deeper: How to Make Sense of Your Life When Your Life Makes No Sense, recipient of both the Allbooks Reviews Editor’s Choice Award and the USABookNews.com Award for the Best Metaphysical Book of the Year.
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